Something that Dr. Gottman discussed in chapter one of his book "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" was that the saddest reasons a marriage dies is that neither spouse recognizes it's value till it's too late. I definitely see this when friends of mine have divorced. Good marriages are taken for granted and he discusses how personally he has seen many couples split up the money, homes, assets etc. and sign on the dotted line before it really hits the couple that they may have lost something good. I also loved learning this week about all the benefits there are to being married, and not just emotionally. Gottman's research shows that married people live 4 to 8 years longer than those who stay single. Using blood samples, researched proved that those who are married had stronger immune systems, allowing them to enjoy a longer, healthier life. I loved learning that loud arguments don't necessarily harm a marriage when there is a strong friendship and common interests are in place. Friendship within a marriage is key. My husband and I have enjoyed a strong friendship since we were very young, and this has been the basis for our marriage, and we have been very happily married for 14 years.
Reference:
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (2018). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. London: Cassell Illustrated.
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